Happily Broken

A family is a basic unit in a community. It consists of the father, mother and the kids. It has a very important role in a country. The family members especially the kids learn basic knowledge of life, earn his first and basic education, and knowledge of our Almighty Father.

When is the family suit to be complete? It is when the love, trust, respect, and loyalty binds them. And having one main goal to meet, which is to live a good life out of what they have, and to nurture their personal growth (career, love life, religious life). All the members must be cooperative, loving, and helping one another to fulfill the family’s basic needs such as food, clothing, and shelter. If all of these factors are present, a family can live happily and contented.

I, myself, have a family. But it is a happily-broken-one. I can say we are happy because I have my loving and thoughtful mother, my supportive stepfather, my two tough and dependable sisters, and my loveable brother, the youngest. I grew up having my Mom solely striving to give us a decent life. My grandfather I call Tatay supported us all the way. He provided what my mother cannot give and cannot do for us, being a father. I never looked for my real father until one day that I found in my heart that I have to meet him in person. I knew him as a person through the stories and memories of him only shared by my sisters and mother. I never accused any of my parents the way our family life had been. I’ve been very thankful that I grew up to be a tough and a strong person. I also did enjoy my childhood, and lived a normal life.

In my case, my biological father wasn’t much of a need. All the other members filled the emptiness of that part our lives. And if I am to compare my life with others who has a complete (in the real sense) family but has a father who beats them, I would never trade places with them. I think it would be better to end up the relationship f the parents if they can’t live peacefully together one roof. Because it will deeply affects the children, and will contribute much to their formative years. Children must grow in a loving and peaceful “home” that they can turn to and hide during their hurtful experiences in school, in a barkada group as a kid and to share with when they’re happy, when they’re up to something new.

Now who would like to be complete family with no peace at all, or in a harmoniously loving happily broken family? I can sense that your guess is as good as mine.